If you are like me, then you have gone through many versions of yourself, just to try and find yourself. As I grew up, I was the only girl other than my grandmother in the house. As of today, I am the last girl to be born in my immediate family! I was so comfortable around boys, that there was a period where I dressed like a boy. Now I realize that we are in a time where things are gender neutral, but growing up in the 80’s and 90’s, I dressed like a boy. However, prior to that, I dressed in all things girl. The frilly lace trimmed socks, hair bows, bangs, earrings, fluffy skirts…the whole 9 yards! And even though my attire was cute, this did not exclude me from getting picked on and made to feel ugly.
I had and still have a gap in my teeth, I was super skinny, I had a scoop ball head that was adorned by four plaited ponytails that seemed to outline the shape of my head perfectly, my legs looked like the number 11, and my chest was flatter than a sheet of paper! You’re probably wondering why would I type these things about myself, but these are not the things that I would particularly use to describe myself. These are the perceptions and the opinions of other people. For so long in my life, I did everything that was in my power to not look like these things. So in wanting to be accepted, I tried to fit in. Many times it was wearing my hair a certain way or the types of clothes that I chose. As you read above, wearing boy clothes made me more comfortable than wearing the girl stuff.
Here’s the thing, after high school, I sort of blossomed. Now mind you, I didn’t gain more weight or grow more in bra size, but my confidence grew! I don’t know when it happened, but I began to not care too much about pleasing others with how I looked, I just did what made me feel my best. But that didn’t come with it’s own set of issues. You see, when insecurities of who we are set in we tend to try and fill that void with things that can essentially cause more damage to our hearts, minds and image. There were so many mirrors that I looked in to find out who I was, but the only mirror I didn’t look into was the one that God was holding the whole time.
We all have people that come into our lives that will pull out their mirror to show us who they think we are or who they want us to be! Some of us are still weighing the success of our lives against the image we saw in someone else’s mirror and even our own! Those that said your were too fat, too skinny, too dark, too light…didn’t have the right mirror! Your image, is God’s image! It’s time that we break those mirrors!
Speaking of broken mirrors; have you broken the mirror that God made for you? Has the words, perceptions, and treatment of others caused you to believe that who you are isn’t enough? Have you broken the mirror that has already confirmed who you are?
See the funny thing about a broken mirror is that it can do several things. If you look into a mirror that has been broken, you can still see yourself, but only in distorted fragmented pieces and not as a whole person. A broken mirror can destroy the perfect view of who you are and the person that others think you should be at the same time. It’s all about perspective. If your true mirror has been broken, here is my challenge to you. Make a mosaic.
A mosaic is a beautiful construction of broken pieces of glass or mirror put together to create art. In between each of those pieces is a mixture that holds them together and binds the pieces. For those of us with broken mirrors, a mosaic is waiting! Everything that you have been through, going through, or will face is providing another piece for the mosaic. God’s love for you is never broken and does not come to break you but to create a masterpiece for and out of your life!
You are being transformed!
2 Corinthians 3:17-18
17 Now the Lord is the Spirit: and where the Spirit of the Lord is, there is liberty. 18 But we all, with unveiled face beholding as in a mirror the glory of the Lord, are transformed into the same image from glory to glory, even as from the Lord the Spirit.
Be blessed y’all!